I have been on both sides, the one who needs to forgive others and the one who seeks forgiveness. Both can be a tough road but as soon as you cross that barrier, what a freeing feeling it is.

One of my biggest faults is how long it takes me to forgive someone. I have really mastered holding a grudge. It's something I am continuing to work on.

Each time I am in the position to forgive someone my first thought tends to be, "how in the world could I ever put this behind me and fill my heart with grace?"

It's hard to do. But I am the first to say the more time you dwell on the issue the harder it will be to genuinely forgive them and it really puts a damper on your mood. It is essentially lost time with that person. It's also a reminder that we all make mistakes, we are not perfect after all and it's unfair to hold anyone to that standard.

My mom and I have had sort of a bantering back and forth relationship for multiple years. I know for a fact we are not the only mother/daughter duo who occasionally has a fallout. Our most recent argument ended up lasting for a month, crazy right?

It ended in forgiveness on both sides, a deeper understanding of where one another is coming from, as well as breaking through a barrier of bad communication. Of course we both would have rather avoided the argument altogether; however, I truly believe we both came out stronger individuals with more empathetic hearts toward each other.

Will we have an argument again? Most likely, because neither of us are perfect. I think it's important to recognize how far the relationship has come and the ways to prevent the same argument from happening again.

In the midst of finding forgiveness, I am always reminded of how God forgives us daily. Do we deserve it? Nope. That's just the beauty and merciful heart of our Father. I think of how heartbroken I am when someone upsets me and I find myself needing to forgive them. Then I think of how heartbroken God must be when we fail Him, knowing the lengths He went to in order to forgive us and our sins. He's Amazing.

In Him we have redemption through the blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace. Ephesians 1:7

So whether it is a family member, a friend, or someone else you love I strongly encourage you to find the strength (sometimes it takes A LOT) to forgive them in your heart.

Extend hands of grace just as God does for you. 

That may mean something different for each situation, but allowing yourself to be free from that situation is the best thing you can do for yourself and them. Maybe your relationship won't return to "normal" but at least you will free yourself from a resentful heart and return to one of grace.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13

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