Let's Have a Heart to Heart


Real talk:

The beginning of August was a s t r u g g l e. There were those ugly cry moments, you know, where you don’t even bother with mascara because you are anticipating the tears coming at some point that day. Then you gather yourself up enough to show up to your adulting duties, wearing your “I’m good, how are you?” smile. Ugh.

Normally I am a very positive person. So for me to be in a negative funk like that is very much out of the norm.

After wallowing in that messy moment for longer than I care to admit, I finally took the initiative to make some positive changes. (Because remaining in a place of sadness was obviously not getting me anywhere.)

For any of you reading this who may find yourself in a negative headspace, I wanted to share a handful of tips that helped me to finally start climbing out of that valley.

Having a real heart to heart with God.

Sharing the messy moments with Him and mustering up the words to express gratitude for all that He has done and is doing in my life. (Even if I don’t completely understand it or it’s frustrating.) He is there to listen - whether you’re spitting mad fire or are totally speechless unable to get even one word out. He knows your heart.

Pinpointing the root causes of such a negative mindset.

When I find myself in that sort of headspace, I sort of lose sight of what is actually causing me to be this way. Everything becomes one big emotional mess and I need to remind myself that not everything in life is horrible right now, what is truly causing this?

Once those root causes are established, take action to rewrite the outcome.

That means different things depending on the situation. Maybe it’s your job that’s causing the same recurring issues or perhaps you are frustrated about something not working out the way you had anticipated. Helping the situation could mean writing down a small list of changes that need to be made to shift your mindset. I ask myself this, “What changes need to be made to start that shift in the right direction?” And sometimes, it could be something internally - a change of heart can make a world of difference.

You are not alone.

In those messy moments, it can be so easy to forget that every single person struggles from time to time - you are not alone in that. Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone and say hey, I’m struggling right now and could use some prayer or some encouraging words of wisdom. Having a community to lift you back up is so, so important. Maybe you don’t have that solid community of support right now - reach out to me. I will be more than happy to help in any way I can, even if that just means listening.

Lifting others, lifts you.

Remember the power in serving others. When you find yourself feeling down, sign up to volunteer, reach out to someone and simply let them know you are thinking about them, ask if a family or friend needs help with anything. It may not completely fix the situation, but it will put you in the right direction to start climbing out of that valley.

A fun, simple way to encourage someone is to send them a little love via a customized card. I recently heard of this awesome company called Paperless Post that has a wide variety of cards to send and is completely customizable to fit that specific person. I emailed a few “just because” cards out to some friends and it was nice to sit back for a moment and shift my focus from feeling overwhelmed to thanking those who have been an encouragement to me. Check them out here :)

My challenge for you today is to show up and take action. The messy moments are going to happen from time to time - but it only takes one moment of strength to push through and refuse to remain there.

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Hailey CrawfordComment